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Tuesday, August 12, 2014


It has been awhile since I have updated everyone.  We are still in S. W. Missouri.  Elohim continues to bring people our way to talk with and witness to.  Also we are making repairs as needed to our camper.  The screens are needing to be replaced yet.  We now have running water inside the camper as the water leaks have been taken care of.  We have found when it rains things in the living part of the camper tend to get a little crowded.  That being said, none of us are ready to go back to living in a house.
  Mike is working on a portrait for a 50th anniversary and that is due next month.  He also continues to work 2 days for the camp ground.  One of the problems we are finding is that of computer time.  We have one lap top.  Laurie has been working on finishing finding what is needed for school this year. 
Another project Mike is working on is the starting of writing a book.  This will be about the Set-Apart family and the areas in which we have worked with our family to be set-apart from the world.  If anyone is interested in donating a lap-top or tablet for this use please let us know.  The rest of this post is part of the introduction to the book.

The Set Apart Family

Is there a difference?

     “So, where are all your girls?”  “You didn’t bring anyone with you today?”  “Your girls are so sweet.”  “My, you girls look beautiful today.”  “Are you Amish or Mennonite?”  “Your family is what families used to be like.”   These are just some of the comments we hear as we journey from place to place.  People can not only see a difference but they also feel or sense a difference in our family.  Most people like what they see and wonder what makes the difference.  When they hear how we have achieved those results they don’t like the hard work it takes to be set apart.  Sometimes as a family counselor people have come and asked what they can do to make a difference in their own family and when they come they want easy solutions.  We don’t have an easy fix.  To achieve the results you want in your family takes having a changed mind about the world you live in.  It takes believing the Word of Elohim (God) and a willingness to apply it to the life of your family in all you do.  The end result is a set-apart lifestyle.  There are seven areas in which we have undertaken to become set apart in.  We don’t always do it well but these are the areas we strive to be set apart in:

  1. Discipleship
  2. Education
  3. Media
  4. Associations
  5. Special Days
  6. Modesty and
  7. Respect

     In our quest for becoming a set-apart family it doesn’t boil down to the luck of the draw or that some children are just better than others.  It boils down to parenting on purpose.  After Laurie and I were married I began praying for the children Yahweh Elohim (Lord, God) would bless us with.  The prayer was they would desire to serve Him with their whole hearts.  The million dollar question is “How do we get there?” and “what is this supposed to look like?”  As the leader of my family the quest naturally should begin with me.  I shouldn’t expect my family to be something I am not willing to be.  Not only do I desire my children to be set apart, I too need to have that deep burning desire within my own heart.

     I need to say, it seems my wife and children at times were more willing to make the hard choices for change than I was.  It was difficult to weed out those things I was so accustomed to doing.  So, change or obedience isn’t always easy.  It takes sacrifice and the desire to live a life that is in obedience to the Father’s instructions for His set apart people.  As parents we ought to be leading our children by our own example.  Children are quick to detect duplicity in our lives.  Also both parents need to be on the same page.  I was recently reminded in a most dramatic way the inside of our home or the atmosphere inside should match the outside.  Yes, we want people to notice how nice and sweet our children are but if they are not treating each other with the same respect they show to others then something isn’t quite right.  It is the same thing Yahshua (Jesus) said about the Pharisees.

Mat 23:25  “Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! Because you clean the outside of the cup and dish, but inside they are filled with plunder and unrighteousness.

Mat 23:26  “Blind Pharisee, first clean the inside of the cup and dish, so that the outside of them becomes clean too.

Mat 23:27  “Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! Because you are like whitewashed tombs which outwardly indeed look well, but inside are filled with dead men’s bones and all uncleanness.

Mat 23:28  “So you too outwardly indeed appear righteous to men, but inside you are filled with hypocrisy and lawlessness.1 Footnote:1See 5:20.

What people see on the outside should match up with what is taking place on the inside.

    Another question to ask would be “do we want our children to be regulated by rules or do we want them to be regulated by what they read in the Scriptures?”  For our family it boils down to internalizing the Scriptures and then being obedient to them.  That being said, some rules are necessary for safety and the running of a well-organized household.  We will talk more about that in our chapter on discipleship.

Paul tells us in 2Ti 3:14 

But you, stay in what you have learned and trusted, having known from whom you have learned,

2Ti 3:15  and that from a babe you have known the Set-apart Scriptures, which are able to make you wise for deliverance through belief in Messiah יהושע.

2Ti 3:16  All Scripture is breathed by Elohim and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for setting straight, for instruction in righteousness,

2Ti 3:17  that the man of Elohim might be fitted, equipped for every good work.   


     It is important to understand, when Paul wrote this letter to Timothy there was no New Testament.  Paul was speaking concerning the Old Testament Scriptures.  The Word “Torah” which people use in talking about the five books of the law of Moses, actually means “instructions”.




Strongs #8451: AHLB#: 1227-H (i1)

if1) Erft% (Erft% TW-RH) - Teaching: The direction one is to take in life.  [freq. 219] |kjv: law| {str: 8451}

Ancient Hebrew Lexicon of the Bible


We are able to see from the Hebrew word picture Torah actually has the meaning attached to it of being the direction one should take in life.  It should not be something negative but positive.  Yahweh Elohim gave special directions for His people to live a life which is set apart.  These instructions do not give salvation, which is where many Jews fail to understand Torah, but we live them as a demonstration of our love for Him.  Let’s take a quick look at Yahshua and what He says concerning the Torah.


Joh 14:23  יהושע answered him, “If anyone loves Me, he shall guard My Word. And My Father shall love him, and We shall come to him and make Our stay with him.

Joh 14:24  “He who does not love Me does not guard My Words. And the Word which you hear is not Mine but of the Father Who sent Me.


Joh 15:9  “As the Father has loved Me, I have also loved you. Stay in My love.

Joh 15:10  “If you guard My commands, you shall stay in My love,1 even as I have guarded My Father’s commands and stay in His love. Footnote: 1See 14:15.

Joh 15:11  “These words I have spoken to you, so that My joy might be in you, and that your joy might be complete.

Joh 15:12  “This is My command, that you love one another, as I have loved you.1 Footnote: 1See 13:34, 15:17.

Joh 15:13  “No one has greater love than this: that one should lay down his life for his friends.

Joh 15:14  “You are My friends if you do whatever I command you.


I ask you this, whose commands are we to follow?  Are they Yahshua’s or Elohim’s? 


Joh 1:1  In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with Elohim, and the Word was Elohim.

Joh 1:2  He was in the beginning with Elohim.


Joh 5:19  Therefore יהושע responded and said to them, “Truly, truly, I say to you, the Son is able to do none at all by Himself, but only that which He sees the Father doing, because whatever He does, the Son also likewise does.

Joh 5:20  “For the Father loves the Son, and shows Him all that He Himself does. And greater works than these He is going to show Him, in order that you marvel.

Joh 5:21  “For as the Father raises the dead and makes alive, even so the Son makes alive whom He wishes.

Joh 5:22  “For the Father judges no one, but has given all the judgment to the Son,

Joh 5:23  that all should value the Son even as they value the Father. He who does not value the Son does not value the Father who sent Him.

Joh 5:24  “Truly, truly, I say to you, he who hears My word and believes in Him who sent Me possesses everlasting life, and does not come into judgment, but has passed from death into life.

Joh 5:25  “Truly, truly, I say to you, the hour is coming, and now is, when the dead shall hear the voice of the Son of Elohim. And those having heard shall live.

Joh 5:26  “For as the Father possesses life in Himself, so He gave also to the Son to possess life in Himself,

Joh 5:27  and He has given Him authority also to do judgment, because He is the Son of Aḏam.

Joh 5:28  “Do not marvel at this, because the hour is coming in which all those in the tombs shall hear His voice,

Joh 5:29  and shall come forth – those who have done good, to the resurrection of life, and those who have practised evil matters, to a resurrection of judgment.

Joh 5:30  “Of Myself I am unable to do any matter. As I hear, I judge, and My judgment is righteous, because I do not seek My own desire, but the desire of the Father who sent Me.


Yahshua could not do anything apart from the Father.  The words He spoke, the commands He followed were those of the Father.  How can we do any less than follow the instructions of the Father as we are to be set apart through the following of His instructions.


Deu 7:6  “For you are a set-apart people to יהוה your Elohim. יהוה your Elohim has chosen you to be a people for Himself, a treasured possession above all the peoples on the face of the earth.


1Pe 1:13  Therefore, having girded up the loins of your mind, being sober, set your expectation perfectly upon the favour that is to be brought to you at the revelation of יהושע Messiah,

1Pe 1:14  as obedient children, not conforming yourselves to the former lusts in your ignorance,

1Pe 1:15  instead, as the One who called you is set-apart, so you also should become set-apart in all behaviour,

1Pe 1:16  because it has been written, “Be set-apart, for I am set-apart.”

1Pe 1:17  And if you call on the Father, who without partiality judges according to each one’s work, pass the time of your sojourning in fear,

1Pe 1:18  knowing that you were redeemed from your futile way of life inherited from your fathers, not with what is corruptible, silver or gold,

1Pe 1:19  but with the precious blood of Messiah, as of a lamb unblemished and spotless,


1Pe 2:9  But you are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a set-apart nation, a people for a possession, that you should proclaim the praises of Him who called you out of darkness into His marvellous light,

1Pe 2:10  who once were not a people, but now the people of Elohim; who had not obtained compassion, but now obtained compassion.


When we consider our Father’s instructions for His set apart people, Christianity observes ninety percent of them.  The other ten percent is left out and considered unimportant.  Most of the ten percent left out are the dietary instructions, the Sabbath and the set-apart appointment times.  Many of the instructions in the Scriptures regarding the temple don’t apply today as there is no temple for observing them.  Many instructions are for the priests.  Some are for men and some are for women.  It is our belief the ten percent left out by modern day Christianity also apply to us today as Yahweh Elohim does not change.


Heb 13:8  יהושע Messiah is the same yesterday, and today, and forever.


Mal 3:6  “For I am יהוה, I shall not change1


Jas 1:17  Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights, with whom there is no change, nor shadow of turning



The divine attribute of unchangeableness. God said in Exodus 3:14, "I AM that I AM," signifying His eternal sameness and His sovereignty. He cannot change His moral character, His love, His omniscience, omnipresence, omnipotence, etc.  God is "From everlasting to everlasting," (Psalm 90:2) CARM Theological Dictionary.


If all of Scripture is profitable why should we pick and choose which laws or instructions to follow and which not to?  Now let’s examine...


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