Thursday, June 16, 2016

Book excerpt part 1

The Set Apart Family:
Confronting Today’s Culture 
Michael K. Race 

©2015 by Michael Race 

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Unless otherwise indicated, Scripture quotations are from The Scriptures
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Dedicated with love, to my wife Laurie and the many 
generations to follow. This work would not have been 
attempted had it not been for you. Laurie your great 
devotion to Elohim and your family is an inspiration
 to us all. For those who follow in our footsteps our
 prayer would be that you all will desire to follow Abba El 
with your whole hearts. May the foundations that have been 
established in this generation endure throughout the following 
generations until Messiah 
return to set up His kingdom. 

Isa 58:12 “And those from among you shall build the old 
waste places. You shall raise up the foundations of many 
generations. And you would be called the Repairer of the 
Breach, the Restorer of Streets to Dwell In. 

The Set -Apart Family: 

Confronting Today’s Culture So, where are all your girls?” “You didn’t bring anyone 
with you today?” “Your girls are so sweet.” “My, you girls look 
beautiful today.” “Are you Amish or Mennonite?” “Your family is 
what families used to be like.” “You can just see the love in your 
family”. “You always bring your girls with you and they are so well 
behaved. They are better than 90 % of the kids that come through here".
 These are just some of the comments we hear as we journey from place 
to place. 
     People can not only see a difference but they also feel or sense
 a difference in our family. Most people like what they see and wonder 
what makes the difference. There are those, who on a rare occasion 
recommend we send the girls to school and allow them to wear jeans 
or slacks. They want to change how we do things, but then we would 
end up being just like everyone else. When they hear how we have 
achieved those results they don’t like the hard work it takes to be 
set apart. Sometimes as a family counselor people have come and asked 
what they can do to make a difference in their own family and when they
 come they want easy solutions. 
     We don’t have an easy fix. To achieve the results you want in your 
family takes having a changed mind about the world you live in. It takes 
believing the Word of  Elohim (God) and a willingness to apply it to the 
life of your family in all you do. The end result is a set-apart 
lifestyle.  “In today’s high-tech, fast paced, morally mixed-up society, 
nowadays, mothers and fathers need a strategy, a plan, especially if 
they’re the kind of parents interested in raising children who can be 
described as true kids of the kingdom….Kingdom parenting, involves 
intentionally overseeing the generational transfer of the faith in such 
a way that children learn to consistently live all of life under God’s 
divine authority.”1 
     There are seven areas in which we have undertaken to become set apart.
 These seven areas of life revolve around Elohim and His Word. We don’t 
always do it well but these are the areas we strive to be set apart: 

1. Discipleship 
2. Education 
3. Health 
4. Associations 
5. Media 
6. Special Days 
7. Modesty and Respect 

     In our quest for becoming a set-apart family it doesn’t boil down
to the luck of the draw or that some children are just better than others.
 It boils down to parenting on purpose.  After Laurie and I were married I
 began praying for the children Yahweh Elohim (Lord, God) would bless us
 with. The prayer was they would desire to serve Him with their whole 
hearts. The million dollar question is “How do we get there?” and
 “what is this supposed to look like?” As the leader of my family 
the quest naturally should begin with me. I should not expect my 
family to be something I am not willing to be. Too many parents 
desire their children to be something they themselves are not. 
They just talk the talk but do not walk the walk. Not only do 
I desire my children to be set apart, I too need to have that 
deep burning desire within my own heart. 
     I need to say, it seems my wife and children at times were 
more willing to make the hard choices for change than I was. It 
was difficult to weed out those things I was so accustomed to doing. 
So, change or obedience isn’t always easy. It takes sacrifice and the 
desire to live a life that is in obedience to the Father’s instructions 
for His set apart people. There were times I was lagging behind my wife 
and children. As I watch my children I see they are becoming even more 
conservative and obedient to Scripture than I am. As parents we ought 
to be leading our children by our own example. Children are quick to 
detect duplicity. Also both parents need to be on the same page. 
     My older children would tell you they received the vision of serving 
Elohim with their whole hearts because dad had a vision of serving Elohim
 wholeheartedly. They knew the vision early on in their life as it was the
 driving force for the life of the family.  I was recently reminded in a
 most dramatic way concerning the atmosphere of our home matching what 
is taking place on the outside. As I began to write this book the 
children's  behavior took a sudden turn for the worst. They began to 
treat each other in ways which were unacceptable. I almost reconsidered 
writing. However, my wife and son reminded me of what took place in our 
home when I was a pastor. While preparing a sermon for the next week 
Satan would often attack my household using the very thing I was going 
to teach about.  It should not have surprised me when the children began
 to act out. One other thing changed slightly, and that was diet related.
 This too could have had an effect on the behavior. Yes, we want people to 
notice how nice and sweet our children are but if they are not treating 
each other with the same respect they show to others then something isn’t 
quite right and it should be dealt with. It is the same thing Yahshua
 (Jesus) said about the Pharisees. 
Mat 23:25 “Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! Because you
 clean the outside of the cup and dish, but inside they are filled with 
plunder and unrighteousness. 
Mat 23:26 “Blind Pharisee, first clean the inside of the cup and dish,
 so that the outside of them becomes clean too. 
Mat 23:27 “Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! Because you
 are like whitewashed tombs which outwardly indeed look well, but inside 
are filled with dead men’s bones and all uncleanness. Mat 23:28 “So you 
too outwardly indeed appear righteous to men, but inside you are filled
with hypocrisy and lawlessness.1 Footnote:1See 5:20. 

    Another question to ask would be “do we want our children to be 
regulated by rules or do we want them to be regulated by what they 
read in the Scriptures?” For our family it boils down to internalizing
 the Scriptures and then being obedient to them. That being said, some 
rules are necessary for safety and the running of a well-organized
     I would like to explain our view on the Scriptures. 
I am sure you have already noticed a couple of differences. 

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