Well,  I guess this would descibe me for the last several years.  Thank you Laurie for sending me this link.  Just some quick notes and by the way, let me encourage you to read the total text of this link.
I attribute it to the fact that when you praised God for what you didn’t like, when you thanked God for what you didn’t like, you brought God into the negative, and you released His power to work.”
But no one can tame the tongue, it is a restless evil and full of deadly poison. With it, we bless our Lord and Father, (we speak well of our Lord and Father) and with it, we curse men (we do not speak well of men and women) who have been made in the likeness of God. From the same mouth come both blessing (speaking well of) and cursing (not speaking well of). My brethren, these things ought not to be this way.”
Romans 1:17 (ESV)
17 For in it the righteousness of God is revealed from faith for faith, as it is written, “The righteous shall live by faith.”
a relationship in my life on a scale of 0 to 10, with 0 being neutral and 10 being good, I had a relationship that was about –20. It was in the deep freeze. It was awful. I thought, "Well, I’ve got everything to gain and nothing to lose
ask the Lord for His power to restrain your lips from cursing in this situation? Ask Him to give you words that encourage, words that express gratitude, words that reflect your hope that God can infuse life into that situation